6 Things to do Before Visiting a Psychic Medium
A really good reading with an evidential medium can be profound and life changing.
An accurate reading with a psychic medium can be highly emotional and transform your grief. If you thought an afterlife was unlikely, or even impossible, it can be more profound than I can put into words.
I’m very skeptical. Until my dad passed away, I had assumed an afterlife was about as realistic as the Easter Bunny.
Before my dad passed away, it never would have crossed my mind to visit a psychic medium anymore than it would have to try to track down and befriend the Easter Bunny. Psychic mediums were at best fun entertainment at parties, in on the fakery with us like stage magicians, or at worst were con-artists tricking the desperate.
But after my dad died and I began to examine if there was any possible evidence of an afterlife and was blown away by what I discovered. Part of the process involved getting medium readings, and at this point I have had about 50 of varying levels, seen multiple group readings, befriended mediums, and now volunteer for a science-minded non-profit that certifies psychic mediums.
So I guess you could say I am a bit of an expert on psychic mediums. Something my old self would have been shocked about. If you are considering having a reading with a psychic medium to help with your grief, here are 6 tips.
Here are six things you can do before visiting a psychic medium to help you have a good reading.
Find a good and evidential medium.
1 - Find a good one:
Not all mediums are equal. While I have changed my mind that the majority are intentional frauds, I have come to think that the majority mean well, and have some form of ability, but are not highly evidential and accurate. To find a good one, here are two places that make their mediums go through blinded tests to eliminate any cheating such as cold reading: The Windbridge Institute and Forever Family Foundation. Any medium who teaches at Arthur Findlay or The Journey Within is also good. Note that there are others who are not affiliated with any of these places, who are still amazing, but going to one of these places is a safe bet.
Invite your loved ones that you want to talk to in for a medium reading.
2 - Ask your loved one to come in.
Before the reading take some time to sit and ask your loved one to come in. If it is a phone reading, take about 30 minutes, burn a candle, turn off the lights and do a mini meditation asking your loved one to come in. If it is in person, get as relaxed as possible on the way there and invite your loved one. If you can arrive early, sit and meditate until they are ready for you. But don’t dismiss the reading if the loved one you want to hear from is not the one who comes in. If you still recognize the information as highly evidential of someone, that still shows consciousness does survive bodily death.
Know how psychic mediums can cheat.
3 - Take Precautions:
The last thing you want is to have an amazing reading and then start to wonder if it was all just google or some form of cheating. Depending how skeptical you are, take as many precautions as you need. Use a fake name. Have a friend (not another family member) pay. If it’s in person, pay cash. Use a google voice number and make a new email address. There were two mediums I went to, who ask you to mail in a paper form (they like to feel the energy of something tangible), and I wore rubber gloves to avoid finder prints. Both of them blew me away too!
Record your session with a psychic medium
4 - Be Ready to Record
It is great to have a recording of the reading. You can listen to it again when you are feeling sad. You can get assurance that no, you did not tell them your dad’s name, they really did get it, you can evaluate how accurate they really were, and you can see if any messages that didn’t make sense to you during the reading so later, or to someone else in your family or circle. For example, maybe the medium said “Your mom keeps talking about a silver star necklace.” That makes no sense, but then your aunt tells you when you play it for her later, that she had given your mom a silver star necklace on her 15th birthday. There is so much information, it will be impossible to remember it all.
If the reading is in person, that is easy - just open a record app on your phone, making sure it is set to airplane mode, so you don’t get disrupted. If it is on the phone, TapeACall Pro works well for Iphone. If its video, find out what platform - zoom? Skype? Test record on your phone, laptop, whatever, the night before so you can make sure it is all working.
Research any psychic medium before booking a reading.
5 - Do a little research on them:
Check the mediums website and social media account (but don’t follow them under your real social account until after the reading, or you will wonder if they researched you. Or maybe even saw something and unconsciously, not even realizing, recognized you and remembered a post, then thought they were genuinely getting this bit of information. I’m not saying that is what a medium would do (although some unethical ones do), a part of you will always wonder.
But check that they are a good match. If you want to communicate with an animal and one mentions they specialize in animals. Are they in your price range? If you are very science-minded and skeptical, one who talks all about god and divine energy on their website might not be right for you. You might prefer one who writes about participating in scientific experiments and having their brain scanned. But this does not need to matter - I am a very science-minded, skeptical atheist, and have had some amazing readings with very religious-minded mediums.
There aren’t really any specific tips about this. It is pretty subjective and can be just a feeling that someone feels “right.”
Make sure a psychic medium can’t cold read you by your appearance
6 - Plan your outfit (If it’s in person or video):
Don’t let your look “give it away.” If you have a special necklace from your loved one, don’t wear it. If you wear something in honor of how they passed such as a pink breast cancer ribbon pin, take it off. If you work in fashion, for example, don’t dress stylishly. Or if you are a student, don’t wear the sweatshirt of the school you are attending. If you recently lost a spouse, and you have your wedding ring off, there will be a white tan line on your ring finger. Put it back on, or get some makeup to cover it up. You get the point. Try to look as bland and generic as possible.
Then if you are there in yoga pants and a black sweatshirt, no makeup, hair in a bun, and the medium says for example, “Your dad tells me you are a makeup artist. Very artistic and stylish,” that will mean something!
Are our loved ones who have passed away still with us?
If you take all of the above precautions and a psychic medium still gets accurate information, that is pretty strong evidence that yes, we do survive bodily death and that our loved ones are still with us.
Good luck!